Why we do divorce differently

Litigation is nasty. Period. In fact, I can’t think of a worst fit for families than the traditional model of litigation. Family law is about good people going through tough times. Adding aggressive, die-hard litigation is the last thing a hurting family needs.

Preserve your assets and the stability of your children. We received a call from “Monica.” She had to let her attorney go in her divorce case because she was tapped out financially. several months into the process, Monica only had a receipt for $18,000 of attorney’s fees. She did not even have a temporary child support order. Neither attorney in the case took care of necessary changes to the property record. Using our approach to family law, we secured the temporary order, stabilized her housing, and facilitated the necessary communication between her and her spouse. These efforts preserved stability for the couple’s children, and prevented catastrophic loss of more than $300,000 of marital assets.

Restore your dignity in the process. Our client, “Sarai,” was devastated to learn her husband wanted a divorce. In her immigrant community, she was considered dead without the validity of her husband. The idea of divorce was very confusing and overwhelming? What would happen next? How will I go on without a husband? Through our approach, we crafted a fair agreement to ensure the children would continue receiving their religious training and continue participating in extracurricular activities. We helped the family plan what resources were available to support the family while mom pursued her own financial stability. The agreement was reasonable to dad because it set limits on expenses he would pay for, yet provide the necessary financial support to keep the children stable.

Create a safe space for healing. “Tony” was concerned about his wife’s mental well being. It was most important to him that he provide the primary care for their daughter, yet foster a healthy relationship with mom. We facilitated discussions to address the barriers in the parents’ communication. The final result was a custody and support arrangement that met the child’s needs, empowered the father to support their daughter through the transition, and support the mother in her own healing while safeguarding her rights to continue being a loving mom for their daughter.

Support temporary separation. Not all separations are final. And separation may actually be necessary to safeguard the hope of reconciliation. “Tara” and “Lawrence” were expecting a baby. The pregnancy was hard and the couple was challenged with suspected infidelity. For both of them, divorce seemed to be the only way to escape the pain of the marriage. Our approach secured a temporary financial arrangement for the expecting mother, and created dialogue with the father to empower him in the process. After several months of maintaining this status quo, the couple began talking to one another again, and reconciled, abandoning the legal process altogether.

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