Why did I get into law?

The short answer: my dad told me I would be a lawyer one day. The journey, however, was long and treacherous. Through a teenage rebellion, I set my sights in the exact opposite direction. I spun my wheels ten years after high school before I complied. Once I did, all of the pieces fell into place and everything just made sense. . . I WAS supposed to be a lawyer.

Fortunately, I found myself practicing in an office that gave me 100% permission to be myself. I was not pressured to model anyone else’s style. I was not told what I could or could not say to my clients during our consultations. I just gave my clients all of me. The result? I felt my clients. I cared about their suffering. Their goals became important to me. I began to see my work as part of the solution.

Unfortunately, the journey has been littered with not-so-caring attorneys. I had one attorney who completely neglected to communicate with me, causing his client’s case to get dismissed.. I had another lawyer who was such a pitbull-in-a-skirt, she completely lost sight of what the case was really about. Another attorney showed up to court drunk, unable to conduct the divorce trial we were all in court for that day.

For years, I struggled with my identity as a lawyer as it contrasts with the yucky experiences I had with my colleagues.. Somehow I cared too much. But how could that be? My clients trust me with their lives. Shouldn’t that mean something? Thankfully, I never felt pressured to be anyone buy myself. And in that freedom, I found that the best family lawyers are the ones that care. Family law, by definition, is caring law.

So the long answer is that I got into law to be a part of the solution. There are many things broken with the system. Many things broken about the practice of law. Worse, there are many broken lawyers. In part, I believe lawyers get broken because we are expected to be aggressive, tough, unrelenting. But when you take a lawyer like me–a compassionate counsel–and require us to be not-caring, that breaks us. It breaks our spirit. It breaks our hope that the system is anything more than just a conveyor belt of case numbers. . . just the facts, no feelings.

I am a part of the solution to what has been broken in family law for too long. The way I practice is a solution to fixing what is broken in other lawyers’ approach to our practice. I was born to be this type of lawyer and it is what makes me the best.

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